This is the first blog in a series I’m calling:
Millennial Sauce (subtext…it’s great on everything).
I’m starting this in response to some of my Millennial clients wanting a place to post thoughts or concerns that they would like to give, as a gift, to you.
Our first contestant submitted four really good blogs…this is the first…enjoy!
Being Right versus Being Righteous
by Ashlyn (24, Millennial Mom)
Having an opinion and respecting someone else’s opinion are two very different things.
I have been struggling with the fact that most people are closed off to others opinions and only value their own.
I am a teacher, and I work in an environment where I am expected to not only respect my boss’s opinion, but act on it .
The only problem is, conforming to an opinion I do not agree with doesn’t sit well with me, so there have been some issues that have come up.
For instance, I was asked to change my students grade from Failing to passing so the school didn’t have to pay to hold that student back. I had two choices when it came time to respond to this:
1. Agree to do it and know deep down know how truly wrong it was. or
2. Speak my mind and potentially risk loosing my job.
A lot of things ran through my head during this moment because I have a family at home I support and losing my job was not an option.
So what did I do?
Against every ounce of my dignity, I did what my boss asked and kept my job.
As humans, we have to consider what is more valuable to us.
Do we stand up for what we believe in or conform to others thoughts, opinions and needs simply to save ourselves, our family, our job or a friend?
When you are put in a similar situation to mine, it is important to weigh the pros and cons and evaluate the overall outcome or consequence.
We need to look at the big picture of the situation. Of course, we always should try and do the right thing, but there are circumstances we are faced with that force us to reconsider.
For me, keeping my job overruled the fact that I was being dishonest with myself and that students progress. Believe me, I am not proud of what I did and to tell you the truth, if I didn’t have a family to support, I would have been okay with losing my job. At the end of the day I had a difficult choice to make.
I decided to make up for my decision by taking extra time with those students who were failing and communicating on a weekly basis with their parents to make sure they had all of the tools they needed to succeed. I knew their grade would not reflect their overall work and effort, but knowing I did all I could to make a difference makes up for my decision to act upon my boss’s opinion.
Believe your opinion matters while respecting others and if you are faced with a difficult decision remember, that we can’t always be right in the eyes of others,however, we must do what we can to be righteous.