Knowing versus Owning

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

At last count there were over 150,000 books listed on Amazon that fell under the category of “understanding your life purpose”. I know, I’ve touched on this before, but there were a few times this week where this very subject came up while working with clients and talking with friends…for some reason the universe wants me to blab about it some more… Like I’ve said…there are MANY people out there (past and present) that have presented material (written, oral, videos, etc.) that explains the way life really is and the way you can “know” it and choose to live the …

Context Winner!

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

This clip is perfect in showing how important “context” is in life. What I mean by context is along the lines of how it is defined by Merriam-Webster… …”the group of conditions that exist where and when something happens”. Although Pooter-the-Clown is a god in certain circles of his life…in others, he’s a hammered, creepy clown weirdo who rides around in a Beetle that looks like a mouse. His problem (as well as ours) is that we take our status from one part of our life and try to live out that role in another part of our life…not taking …

Listen to Your Elders?

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Some people have done an amazing job growing into themselves…absorbing life and its complexities…understanding about balance, perspective, importance. These are the mentors…the elders we look up to that are cool under pressure and seem to have a knack for being able to effectively answer our questions and at the same time, instilling a little bit of their “old soul” knowledge onto us…so we can eventually pay it forward. With these people, we should be all ears.  And, even though we haven’t yet gained the level of life experience or perspective to really “own” what they are saying, we need to …

Strong, the Dark Side Is

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

A little Yoda to brighten your day…. The outside world is setup so you can be completely validated by accomplishments and obtaining material wealth no matter how you do it…especially nowadays where it’s just as acceptable to be a total A-Hole, a user, a taker…but still be acknowledged and, in some cases, adored through the sensationalized media. This is another sad commentary on us, as a whole, and how we STILL (most of us) operate from that little lizard brain. So, with the world set up around you to validate both living your life with integrity and living your life as …

Life, the Simple Truth of it All

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Life is complicated…well, it can be if you want to make it complicated. Actually, the major components of life are pretty simple and, when understood… …really set into a nice flow…result being…big-time joy and fulfillment. Here is life in a nutshell… 1. Your life consists of two major pieces…your INNER WORLD (the reality you create in your head) and the OUTER WORLD (including everyone and everything else) 2. Your inner world consists of 3 people…your TRUE SELF, your EGO and your natural INSTINCT 3. In order to live a fulfilled life, your TRUE SELF must be in the driver’s seat …

We Are All Messed Up

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Do you realize, we are instinctually programmed to be upset if another person has accomplished something we believe we should have done? It really sucks that the level in which our brains have evolved that we can yet override this instinctual, amygdala-driven sense of survival…which comes from a completely uneducated “caveman” notion that if they have it, I don’t….or, it reflects directly onto your failures and immediately de-selects you as one of the “chosen” of your species. The sad part about this is it comes from the first-developed, very small part of the brain…and time after time, it wins over …

What is it that You Do Here?

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Anytime you try to take a different angle on something or start a new project that’s slightly out of the “box”…inevitably, you will have a lot of splaining to do, Lucy… This is where I have found myself over the past decade, because what I do is something that really hasn’t existed on a recognizable scale. I have a background in psychology, but I’m not a therapist…..I have a background in philosophy, but I’m not a classical philosopher…I have strategically placed myself between these two studies…. Oh, and just to be clear…..I’m NOT a life coach…sadly, this moniker has been …

Untie Your Knots

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

One of the most difficult parts about working on yourself…expanding….becoming more aware… …is the process of having to undo a lot of things in your life….I like to call it “Untying the Knots” of your present life. It’s because you have already set up your life based upon your past Ego programs and uneducated decisions…and now…..now that you have a better idea of how things work and what YOU want out of life… ….now you STILL have to live within the lousy framework….be ok with living in a bad framework….AND, have the patience to SLOWLY make changes to get yourself …

Key to Shaping Up

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Whether it’s getting in physical shape, or attaining a solid emotional balance or expanding your mental capacity or seeking a more expansive life… The one KEY to shaping up is…..wait for it…..UNDERSTANDING IT’S A LIFE-LONG PROCESS It’s about committing yourself to doing the work, day after day, until a month goes by and you do some things a little different…then a year goes by and you’ve integrated more solid concepts into your life…10 years goes by and you have even more….it’s NEVER ENDING. The Ego is the one that gets you to stop if you don’t see desired results within …

Good Frustration

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

I’m thinking you typically wouldn’t choose “frustration” as a state of mind to embrace. And…I agree…However, It can be a VERY good sign of you being more aware, more conscious and more expansive in your life…here’s the skinny…. …First, there are two kinds of frustration… The first one comes from your Ego…it is NOT the good one…this frustration comes about when you are not aware…you’re acting like a robot…just “reacting” to things…and the inability for you to be present and aware and “understanding” of how things works, leads you to begin the boiling process. This type of frustration takes its …