That’s A Nice Hat

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

I judge…all the time….so do you…so does everyone. Anyone that says they don’t judge is flat-out lying. Judging is our primitive/instinctual way of keeping ourselves alive.  It is securely imbedded in our brain, more specifically the amygdala – a part of the limbic system, and has been effectively used to keep our species from being wiped out.  Without it, we wouldn’t be able to learn about elements of the big world that pose a threat to our lives. So it certainly isn’t a bad character trait to judge any and all.  The problems arise when you don’t take the next …

Hello My Special Friend

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

I don’t want to sound like Mr. Rogers or Barney, but you, my friend, are actually special in the aspect of being unique. There is no one in the world, past, present or future, that will look, act, think, feel, interpret, sense and experience life the way you do. My belief is that, since we are this way, why not take advantage…why not learn to focus your unique perspective of life into something that you can share with the rest of us?  Problem is, most of us have had the feeling of being unique, shamed or beaten out of us. …

Relationships…Yeah Buddy!!

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

This is another one of those “way to much for a blog entry” subjects.  However, I will summarize my main points. Relationships, whether couple, friend, family, co-worker, will ALWAYS have ups AND downs because of the following: 1. Everyone lives in their OWN world with their unique perspective on life. 2. Relationships are bound by natural law, meaning they cannot escape the negative that comes along with the positive. 3. We are all “moving targets”…our perceptions, emotions, moods, blood sugar, attitudes change on a second-to-second basis Interestingly enough, the biggest problems in relationships comes from a lack of knowing who …

Fair-e-Tale

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

To summarize: Life is not fair, never has been, never promised to be.  It seems logical to think if you live a good clean life with kindness towards all and a love of all creatures great and small, you’d be thrown a bone once in a while and not have to go through so much crap that, clearly, you don’t deserve.  Yeah, I’m with ya…sadly, the “reality” of it all doesn’t match up with the fantasy. This thought comes from a seed in our mind known as “reciprocation” that has existed ever since those smarty pants social psychologists labeled it.  …

The Customer is NEVER Right

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Growing up and having to wait tables or work the register or answer the phone, I frequently had this thought…sadly though, it was more from a perspective of “you’re a pain in the ass, shut up and get out of here!”, rather than “this is clearly a time where my reality is not gelling with your reality”. Yeah, I know, it probably feels better to act out the yelling at a wackadoo customer, but that actually shows it’s the “feeling” that’s getting in the way.  The feeling comes either from your instinctive nature to protect yourself, or moreover, your worldview …

Happiness….Blerg!!

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

There is WAY more I have to say about happiness than I can fit in a relatively succinct blog entry, but, for the sake of keeping it brief…here we go. Conclusion: Life is NOT about being happy…thank you…goodnight! Okay, that may be too brief. Happiness is an emotion and, like all emotions is typically based on a point of reference or instance where you are sensing or “reacting” to something.  Unfortunately, the way the world around us (the Outside World) is set up, this emotional state has NO CHANCE of consistently sticking around….it’s not supposed to. The natural law that …

The In-Between Time

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

I have found that with my friends, family, people I have worked with and myself, life-shifts almost always start in the “in-between” time.  This is the period of linear time (tick tock of the clock time) that exists “between” waking up, going to school, working, eating, feeding kids…you know the daily time commitment stuff. Invariably, when I ask someone how they would go about creating a significant shift, they want to do something big like quit a job or leave school or just pick up and move.  Then I have to be the one that pees in their Cheerios, saying something like…a big chunk …

Yeah, I said Artist

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

It’s too bad that we have accepted the title of “Artist” in such a narrow meaning of understanding.  Because I think you, me, everybody is essentially an Artist in our True Self form.  I suppose that comes from the idea that living as our Self and finding a way to share your gift with the rest of us is, in essence, “expressing” your unique perspective of the world…isn’t that what artists do??  The only difference between the Artists we think of today and the rest of us is they have found their mode, or vehicle in which to share their …

Ready, Set…Go!

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

Hello my friend! And so it begins…well, at least in the “blog” form of communication. My intention, and promise to you, is to present Myself…period. From apparently sane rationalizations to twisted worldly interpretations, to flaws to insights…and everything in between. Because the only real uniqueness any of us have is…wait for it…our True Self. I did not put my blood, sweat and tears into learning and growing and writing and developing my material for the purposes of pure self-gratification or Ego stroke…quite the contrary. My “purpose” is to help through my gift, which I present to you on the site, …