What is an Expert?

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

What makes someone an “expert”? Quick answer: If you believe they are. Even somewhat clear cut qualifications like an advanced degree or being highly-skilled, having a core competency in something only makes someone an “expert” to the people that believe they are an expert. Some people believe Dr. Phil is an expert because, apparently he’s a doctor and he was apparently expert enough to land his own show and apparently a lot of people watch and apparently THEY think he’s an expert, so…who am I to argue? Personally, I’m not in that camp…let’s leave it at that 🙂 And, let’s …

The Universe, turns out, is WAY Smarter Than You or Me!

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

I talk a lot about “Letting Go of the Rock”… …it’s actually one of the core concepts in my philosophy and one of the pillars of my teachings. The concept, if it hasn’t yet taken up residence in rote memory, is based on the conscious choice to stop resisting the universal flow of things…surrender to the flow and let it take you to where you need to go. We, as human people, like to think, in the moment, that we know what’s best for us…what actions we need to take to “lead” us to where we want to go… It’s …

My Whole Point

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

  As 2014 comes to a close and a bright, beautiful new year is upon us, I would like to freshly state why I do what I do. The ENTIRE point of me doing what I do is to… …help the people that will “hear” me to Understand how life actually works Become “aware” and grounded in who they really are (True Self) Become “aware” of their unique gift they have to share with the rest of us And, to encourage them to find the best possible way to share it with as many of us as possible. That’s it… …

The Family Politic

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

First, I would like to ask you a quick question… Are you affiliated with a particular political party because you freely chose to be after truly understanding its philosophy or did you choose based on someone else? I’ve actually done some research on this, and…not surprising…most people choose a political party based on what they see on TV or their parents or someone else’s influence. When questioned, they have very little idea of what their party platform actually is. I wrote an entire short paper on this very subject…it’s located in the book section of my website. However, if that doesn’t …

Rejection Doesn’t Exist

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

In the realm of YOU and your TRUE SELF and the interaction of YOU with the outside world… Being rejected doesn’t actually exist. Rejection is “an act of” or “a state of” or “something that is” rejected… …all of which are just ways of describing something or a situation within a particular context and based upon a unique point of view. What I mean is… …It’s only “rejection” if you label it that way, or if someone else does and you decide to accept their interpretation of the situation. In actuality, rejection is merely a disagreement between two entities as …

But You Really Don’t Know

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

The traditional saying is something like… Preparation allows you to be ready when the opportunity arises. Which makes sense, but maybe doesn’t paint the whole picture. In some situations, people know what they are preparing for, how they have to prepare and when they are going to be called upon to act within that opportunity… …like practicing in sports for the next game. But, A lot of us have this spark of an interest…perhaps the beginnings of a full blown, life-changing passion, and, since we don’t have any idea what to do with it, or where it will take us, …

Warts and All

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

I’ll go so far as to say that, given the choice, we would all love to live out the fantasy life we have created in our minds. And, even though most of us have the presence of mind to understand that life is slightly more challenging than the fantasy life movie running in our heads, we still, on some level try to force the fantasy on our reality. Life is messy, fraught with ups and downs and loses and perils along with all the good and beautiful it offers.  Remember, it’s suppose to have both sides….it’s called Natural Law…you have …

Honesty, Honestly

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

The honest truth about “honesty” is that it’s not what you think. Honesty comes from one’s internal interpretation of their own ever-fluid emotional state or behavior judgment…like, “to be honest with you, I think you’re a tool”… …that is an emotional judgment based on your state of mind in that moment combined with whatever history you have with that person…OR…a history with someone(s) else that is triggered by the person you are talking to. The chink in the armor with “honesty” is that…in another circumstances with, maybe, not the amount of stressors present in your life, your “to be honest …

Knowing versus Owning

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

At last count there were over 150,000 books listed on Amazon that fell under the category of “understanding your life purpose”. I know, I’ve touched on this before, but there were a few times this week where this very subject came up while working with clients and talking with friends…for some reason the universe wants me to blab about it some more… Like I’ve said…there are MANY people out there (past and present) that have presented material (written, oral, videos, etc.) that explains the way life really is and the way you can “know” it and choose to live the …

Context Winner!

Anthony Dufresne Millennial Issues

This clip is perfect in showing how important “context” is in life. What I mean by context is along the lines of how it is defined by Merriam-Webster… …”the group of conditions that exist where and when something happens”. Although Pooter-the-Clown is a god in certain circles of his life…in others, he’s a hammered, creepy clown weirdo who rides around in a Beetle that looks like a mouse. His problem (as well as ours) is that we take our status from one part of our life and try to live out that role in another part of our life…not taking …